Boys will be boys–a phrase we’ve all heard too many times.
For years this phrase has been used to explain away aggro behavior that a small number of children exhibit. As if, biologically or naturally, boys are more violent or aggressive because they are male. I’m using “boys” and “children” because that is typically who this phrase is associated with. However, recently–and historically–this has been used to explain away the behaviors of grown men as well. We’ve also heard different iterations of “boys will be boys” form over the years, such as “locker room talk.”
It never was before, but now we’re actually doing something about it–apart from electing unprincipled politicians and businessmen.
While that tangent was fun–one of many I assure you–that’s not all this blog is about. This is about the new Gillette commercial and what your company culture can learn from it.
The ad opens with men of all ages looking in the mirror; newscaster voiceovers discussing bullying, the #MeToo movement, and toxic masculinity in the background. Then a narrator interjects with a question, formed from the Gillette slogan itself. “Is this the best a man can get,” he asks matter-of-factly. This set up effectively delivers us to the purpose of the ad: prompting men to hold each other accountable. Not every man is a “locker room talk” type, so it’s up to all of us to put an end to the behaviors of those that are.
According to Gillette’s North American brand director Pankaj Bhalla, in an interview with CNN, the brand expected debate to stem from the messaging. He also explains that the point of the ad is to spark discussion in hopes of making real change happen. Bhalla says the ad is not about toxic masculinity, but about men taking action and setting a better example.
Toxic masculinity, or traditional masculinity ideology, is what happens when we as a society teach boys that they aren’t allowed to express emotions; that any emotion is feminine and makes them weak; that the only emotions they should show are anger and aggression.
Examples of toxic masculinity are strewn throughout the workplace and have been forever. For decades, work has been a masculinity contest; it’s been about being the winner because losers are feminine and weak, because power is what makes a man a man.
These ideals need to change, they turn every aspect of work into a competition–one that some marginalized groups are designed to lose. For example, an aggressive male leader is applauded and seen as strong, but an aggressive female leader is looked at negatively, and that’s just something that modern HR and leadership shouldn’t get behind.
This concept also makes its way out of the office as well, sometimes even impacting personal health. According to CNN, many men are claiming it’s not masculine to leave work early to go to the doctor, or to leave to pick up their children from school. What do any of those things have to do with masculinity? Nothing–but society has told men that we have to “man up,” deal with things on our own, and not seek help.
Although these views seem deep-rooted into society, there are still many ways to detoxify your work culture so that your team can effectively move the needle forward.
These are 5 ways to transform a toxic culture into an inclusive workplace where your team can flourish:
2019 is going to be different for everyone; and companies and their cultures have already proven to not be immune to cultural shifts.
There are many different lessons to learn from the Gillette ad. Most importantly: as a society, we need to do better accepting all people. As a workforce, we need to celebrate those differences and work to eradicate toxic masculinity from the workplace…for good.